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Life’s Fault Tolerance: The “small mistakes” that once made you nervous are actually not that scary
The experience of delayed graduation from university: the anxious self that once existed
Recalling the experience of graduating from college with a one-year delay feels like a memory from yesterday. At that time, seeing classmates around me gradually entering the workplace and accumulating valuable work experience, while I had to rush to school every week for exams and classes, my heart was filled with immense anxiety and self blame, feeling like I had been left behind. During that time, I fell into deep regret and depression, feeling as if my life had been ruined.
Perspective ten years later: The ‘big problem’ of that year was actually insignificant
Time flies, and looking back now, more than a decade later, the anxiety and unease at that time seem to have been excessive. Extending my studies for a year did not have much impact on my life trajectory. Nowadays, I have accumulated rich experience in my work, which is not inferior to those classmates who did not delay graduation. I thought it was a ‘huge mistake’ back then, but now it seems to be just a temporary self pressure and tension.
The problem itself is not scary, it is our fear that amplifies it
Looking back on that experience, I deeply realized that problems themselves are often not so scary, but rather amplified by our imagination and fear. In fact, the tolerance rate of life is much higher than we imagine.
If you are also in a seemingly unsolvable dilemma, or feel that you have made irreparable mistakes, you may want to take a look at some netizens’ real sharing about “life’s fault tolerance” below. These stories may help you understand that many problems in life are not as serious as you imagine.
Real sharing from netizens: those seemingly irreversible moments
The day I forgot to bring my backpack, I thought I was finished
A netizen shared his childhood experience: one day when he forgot to bring his backpack to school, he stood at the school gate and thought it would be the “end of his life”. However, looking back now, this was just a small episode in his growth process and did not have any negative impact on his future.
I have failed so many times, but I still succeeded
Another netizen shared his journey of learning and career: he took two college exams, three graduate school exams, took the IELTS exam eleven times, took the TOEFL exam twice, and the GRE was no exception. Despite experiencing so many failures, he now holds a job with an annual salary of one million and has received teaching invitations from British universities. He sighed, “Every failure is not the end, but the preparation for the next success
After failing the interview, I cried bitterly, but now I think this is the best arrangement
Another netizen shared her experience of attending a dream job interview. She was rejected in the first round of the written test, and when she walked out the door, she cried heart wrenching. Looking back now, she feels that God only helped her cut losses in a timely manner, that job was not suitable for her, and she eventually found a more suitable direction for herself.
Everything is the best arrangement
A netizen mentioned that she fell into a low mood when she failed the interview by one place. Just as she was going out to eat, she heard the song “Everything is the Best Arrangement” playing on the radio, and instantly broke down emotionally, crying loudly. At that moment, she understood that perhaps God had another plan, so there was no need to be too fixated on past failures.
Believe in the resilience of life even in adversity
I didn’t become a graduate student, but I’m still doing well
A netizen who failed the graduate school entrance examination recalled that she cried all night. However, the care of her family and the support of her friends slowly helped her overcome the low point. She eventually discovered that although she was unable to become a graduate student as she had hoped, she had gained more valuable experiences in both work and life, and now she felt very satisfied with life.
Failure, depression, and starting again
Another netizen shared her experience of failing the postgraduate entrance examination and IELTS, and falling into depression after an eight year relationship ended. She struggled to survive under the shadow of psychological problems and is still insisting on treatment. Despite the uncertainty of the future, she firmly believes that as long as she is alive, there is hope in life.
As long as you’re alive, the problem isn’t big
Someone once wrote in an article, “When disaster strikes, we think we cannot bear it. But when we truly immerse ourselves in it, we realize that everything is not unbearable. As long as we are alive, there is nothing in the world that cannot be overcome
The tolerance rate of life is far greater than you imagine
Through these shares, we can see that life is actually much more flexible than we imagine. Many seemingly insurmountable difficulties become insignificant over time. Not being admitted to our ideal school, not finding our desired job, not getting married and having children as expected, these things that may cause us unbearable pain at some stage, when we look back, we may find that they have not hindered us from moving towards happiness and success at all.
So, when you face difficulties, you can relax your mindset and tell yourself: this is not the end of the world, life is still long, and the future is still full of infinite possibilities.