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The ‘Pembling’ way of expressing love without shyness: making gratitude and care no longer awkward
Have you all had the same experience as me? Due to my upbringing and strong personality, I have found that when faced with close friends, family, and even long-term partners, expressing ‘love’ always becomes very awkward.
Recently, on the internet, I have discovered a way to express love that no longer appears cheesy, called “Pembling”. This method is particularly effective for people like me who are afraid of embarrassment and have thin skin. It allows me to successfully convey gratitude and care to those around me, without missing opportunities to express myself due to shyness.
What is’ Pebbling ‘?
Pebbling “was originally used to describe a behavior of male penguins expressing love. Male penguins will select the most beautiful stone from their surroundings and give it to their desired female penguin, thereby establishing an emotional connection with each other. In recent years, similar expressions have emerged on social media, where people express their gratitude and care to their friends and family through “memes,” “emojis,” or “funny videos. These seemingly casual small actions reflect understanding and careful care for the other person, avoiding embarrassment when expressing themselves directly and allowing the other person to feel their feelings.
My “Pebbling” experience: expressing gratitude to friends
Recently, I was in a low point in my life and often confided in the same friend. My friend didn’t say much, just listened quietly and occasionally gave some ideas and suggestions. As time passed, I gradually emerged from that period of decline and my mood began to improve. So, I really want to express my gratitude to this friend whom I have known for over ten years.
But due to our casual and generous interactions, I don’t know how to express my gratitude. Especially when my friend noticed that I wanted to prepare something for her, she specifically “warned” me not to invite her to dinner or give expensive gifts. This has left me struggling with how to express gratitude.
Coincidentally, I saw a sharing of “Pebbling” online and decided to follow this method.
My friend has a 10-year-old toy poodle at home, which is almost the center of her life. So, I have decided to send her some cute videos or emojis of poodle dogs from time to time in the coming months, to help her find a little happiness in her busy work. At first, my friend was amused by my frequent dog sharing videos, but gradually, she also began to find this interaction very interesting and started sending back some funny videos to me. Although this kind of interaction is not as close as going out to eat or chatting for a long time, we all enjoy this simple yet fun way of sharing.
Interact with family and loved ones using “Pebbling”
In addition to interacting with friends, I have also started using this method to communicate with my family and crush. For example, my parents really enjoy singing old songs, so I spent time creating a playlist of old songs for them on YouTube for them to play anytime. For my crush, he likes a certain band, so I also started to pay attention to the dynamics of this band. When I saw interesting timed videos or content, I immediately forwarded them to him to watch.
A good way to express love
Although I may need more time to practice expressing ‘love’ directly, through the method of ‘Pembling’, I no longer miss the opportunity to express gratitude and love out of fear of embarrassment. For those who, like me, feel awkward expressing emotions, ‘Pebbling’ is a great choice. It allows us to convey warmth and love without having to be blunt.
If you are also looking for a less direct but still effective way of expression, why not try this simple “Pebbling” method!