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Refine Life: The Transition from Negative Emotions to Beautiful Feelings
There was a period of time when I fell into a deep depression, with various negative emotions flooding my mind, feeling that nothing was meaningful, and life seemed to be plunged into endless darkness. This state lasted for quite a long time until one time, I met a very interesting person at a friend’s party. Although it was our first time meeting, he was a very good listener and we quickly started chatting. I couldn’t help but confide in him about my inner troubles, and he said a sentence that left a deep impression on me:
It may sound like the world is full of bad things, but in reality, the world is full of all kinds of things
This sentence is like a beam of light shining into my long closed heart. I suddenly realized that there are indeed various things in the world, both good and bad, but why do I only see the ‘bad’ ones? From that moment on, I began to re-examine my mentality and life.
Why do we always see negative things?
Human nature often tends to protect ourselves, and in order to avoid harm, we tend to pay more attention to negative things. This tendency often leads us to overlook positive things when facing difficulties in life. Even though we know good things exist, we cannot truly enjoy those beautiful moments due to our inner fear of loss or excessive focus on negative situations.
Later, I gradually realized that prolonging positive feelings is very important. This is not a natural ability, but a skill that requires deliberate practice. During this process of self-healing, I came into contact with popular lifestyle rules in European and American communities——Savoring refined lifestyle. This method helps me gradually overcome my low point and regain balance and beauty in life.
Savoring: Appreciating the Beautiful Moments in Life
SavoringFine tasting is a conscious act of experiencing, appreciating, and prolonging positive experiences in daily life. It is completely different from what we often refer to as’ toxic positive energy ‘.Toxic positive energySavoring is a way of ignoring negative emotions and forcefully maintaining an optimistic attitude, while Savoring accepts the good and bad in life and actively chooses to deepen the “good” experience. By appreciating the beauty in life, we can cultivate stronger psychological resilience and avoid falling completely into negative and painful emotions when facing challenges.
The key to refinement lies in the present moment. You can rush through every day like finishing a quick meal; You can also slow down the pace, carefully appreciate the small joys in life, and feel every tiny moment of happiness. For example, to calm down and feel a carefully prepared meal, or to bask in the sun for a while and close your eyes to feel the warmth of the sun shining on your skin. Appreciating life is not about how it must be “perfect”, but about how we find that beauty in our existing environment.
How to start Savoring practice?
So, how to start practicingSavoringWhat about it? Here are some tips I have personally tried to help you learn to appreciate the beauty of life in your daily life:
- bask in the sunshineIf the weather is good, be sure to take five to ten minutes to sit on a park bench, close your eyes, and feel the warmth of the sun, instead of sliding your phone while sunbathing.
- Record textWhen you come across touching phrases in a book, movie dialogue, or lyrics, copy them down in your notebook. This not only helps you cherish those beautiful moments, but also allows you to relive them in the future.
- Enjoy dining timeNo matter how busy you are, prepare a simple meal for yourself and decorate the dining table slightly. You don’t need a luxurious dinner, but a drink and neatly arranged utensils can give you a sense of ceremony.
- Record and share beautiful momentsRecord the beautiful moments you feel and share them on social media platforms. This process is not only a reflection, but also a way to feel the joy of that time when flipping through it repeatedly in the future.
- Expressing gratitudeWhen you have a pleasant time with your friends, don’t forget to stop and tell them, “I really enjoyed chatting with you today.” Expressing gratitude is also a way to continue the positive experience.
- Enjoy the comfort of the bodyWhen you feel unwell, why not take a long hot bath or even perform a full set of skincare treatments for yourself, feeling the relaxation from head to toe.
- Night WalkWhen returning home from a party or bar, instead of taking a taxi, choose to walk home. Enjoy the tranquility of the night, feel the fresh air, and relax both body and mind.
- Interacting with petsRegularly spend time with pets or quietly observe them. You will find that animals are full of surprise and healing power.
Savoring is not a complex skill, it is a simple practice that can be integrated into your daily life. By savoring every beautiful moment in life, you can gradually overcome the troubles of negative emotions and move towards inner peace and satisfaction. The beautiful moments in life do not require special rituals or perfect conditions, only you need to feel and appreciate them with your heart. Whether it’s the tranquility under the sun or a carefully prepared meal, it can be the starting point for your Savoring.
May we all learn to appreciate those warm and ordinary moments of happiness in the complex world, and find our own inner balance.