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Does love make people lose control? Women are awakening
Love has always been regarded as an important part of life, especially in modern society, where it seems to occupy the majority of our attention. A glance or a text message can trigger suspicion and anxiety. In order to get rid of these emotional troubles, a new trend has recently emerged among European and American women: the “Boy Sober” lifestyle, which means “quitting men”. This concept helps them escape from the vortex of love and rediscover themselves.
What is’ Boy Sober ‘?
The literal meaning of ‘Boy Sober’ is’ to stay alert to boys’. This word comes from 26 year old New York girl Hope Woodard. She saw her grandmother constantly sending messages to her deceased grandfather while visiting her grandmother who suffered from dementia. At the same time, Hope herself was also disturbed by the men she met on dating apps. She realized that regardless of age, women are always “kidnapped” by men, whether it’s their expectations for love or their anxiety about relationships.
At this point, Hope made a bold decision: to delete all dating apps, set a goal of “not dating for a year”, and gradually developed the “Boy Sober” guidelines – not using dating apps, not dating, not entangling with exes, not flirting, not hugging, not kissing.
Stop dating, end the vicious cycle
The concept of “Boy Sober” quickly spread, and 28 year old Carly Galluzo also shared her experience. Carly is the kind of person who easily falls in love. When she first meets someone, she fantasizes about the future, but whenever the relationship doesn’t develop as planned, she feels extremely angry and anxious. This kind of love pattern leads to a vicious cycle: expectations, disappointment, and anxiety are constantly repeated. In the end, Carly deleted dating apps and rejected all male invitations, breaking this pattern.
Boy Sober: Give yourself a chance to catch your breath
Some people may feel that Hope and Carly’s approach is too radical, but it cannot be denied that this approach resonates with many people. Faced with the reality of constantly dating, scrolling through social networking apps, and spending time and money without any results, more and more women feel exhausted and helpless.
In fact, ‘Boy Sober’ does not mean completely rejecting the opposite sex or sexual behavior, but rather reminding us to take a break from toxic relationships and focus on personal growth, family, and friends, in order to get rid of excessive dependence on love.
Gaining strength from it: It’s not just love that can fill loneliness
Carly and Hope both stated that their lives underwent significant changes after implementing “Boy Sober”. Their relationship with friends has become closer and deeper. Through this approach, they discovered that not only can their partner alleviate feelings of loneliness, but their friends around them can also bring the same happiness and satisfaction.
Through these experiences, they gradually reduced their anxiety about marriage and finding a soulmate, understanding that the meaning of life is far more than just finding a partner. When they no longer focus all their attention on love, they become more independent and powerful.
Give yourself a chance to regain confidence and a sense of security
If you are also struggling with dating, you may want to try the “Boy Sober” lifestyle. When you detach yourself from the anxiety of love, refocus on yourself, and regain confidence and security, you will discover new possibilities in life. The development of many things will also become different when you are no longer persistent.